A soul note for women on the other side of trauma, wondering why they still feel lost.
On realizing that it’s not about fixing yourself, but remembering who you are
Many of the women I work with are sensitive, wise, and deeply self-aware. They’ve read the books, done the journaling, attended the workshops, identified the source of their pain. They know how trauma shaped them, how people-pleasing became a shield, how perfectionism masked pain. And still, they come to me saying, “I thought I’d feel better by now. Why do I still feel like something’s missing?”
This, I believe, is the hidden terrain of healing no one talks about enough. The space after survival. The space where soul work begins.
True trauma recovery is not about constantly excavating what’s wrong with you. At some point, healing shifts from processing the past to embodying the present. From analysis to aliveness. From fixing to remembering. You begin to turn inward not just to repair what’s been harmed, but to reconnect with what’s sacred. Your joy. Your voice. Your stillness. Your yes and your no. Your spiritual root system. Your sacred self.
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In the therapeutic work I offer, I honor this sacred turning point. I call it sacred self therapy: an approach that integrates trauma-informed care with spiritual healing, somatic wisdom, and natural rhythms. It’s a space where we don’t just talk about your past, but also explore the subtle, living intelligence of your body, your intuition, and your connection to something greater. We let the Earth’s rhythms mirror your own. We listen to the seasons in your body. We remember together that healing is not linear, it’s cyclical, spiral-shaped, and deeply personal.
Sacred therapy doesn’t rush you toward a polished version of yourself. Instead, it invites you back to the raw, alive, unfiltered essence of who you were before the world told you to shrink. It’s less about performance and more about presence. Less about improvement and more about homecoming. It asks: Who were you before the shoulds? Before the shame? Before survival became your identity?
In our work together, we might draw from archetypes of your inner landscape. We’ll let your body lead us toward what’s ready to be softened, reclaimed, or awakened. We might weave in seasonal rituals, embodied practice, breathwork, or guided visualization to help you reinhabit your life in a new way. This isn’t about checking more boxes. It’s about rooting into wholeness.
If you’ve been walking the healing path for a while and still feel like something’s missing, if the practices that once sustained you now feel dry, or if you’re yearning for a more soulful connection to yourself, it might be time for a different kind of healing. Not one that’s about fixing your symptoms, but one that helps you feel like you again.
You are not a project. You are not a problem. You are a sacred being who deserves to live rooted, resourced, and reconnected.
If this speaks to something deep in you, I invite you to explore this next chapter of healing. Through one-on-one sessions or intensives, we’ll walk a path of healing that honors not just what you’ve survived, but who you’re becoming.
✨ Book a free consultation or explore my latest offerings here. Your sacred self is not lost. She’s just waiting for you to come home.
I offer somatic, trauma-informed therapy and consulting for sensitive, neurodivergent women and femme cycle breakers who are ready to realign with their rhythm, reclaim sacred embodiment, and live in alignment with who they truly are.
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Come as you are. Let’s unmask together.
There is sacredness in your becoming.
ways to work with me:
Online counseling and EMDR/Brainspotting for clients located in Bend, Oregon and the state of Oregon. Click here to schedule a free consultation.
Read more about sacred self therapy here and my approach to working with women with ADHD here.
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